Becoming Like Little Children to Enter the Kingdom
Matthew 18:3 (NIV): “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:4 (NKJV): “Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Mark 10:15 (NASB): “Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child will not enter it at all.” Luke 18:17 (NIV): “Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”
I also like looking at what the book of John says. I explain why in my post, “Why the Gospel of John Is Essential to Study.”
John’s Perspective on Entering the Kingdom
John mentions the “kingdom of God” explicitly only twice, both in Jesus’ conversation with Nicodemus:
John 3:3 — You cannot see the kingdom of God unless you are born again (or “born from above”). John 3:5 — You cannot enter the kingdom of God unless you are born of water and the Spirit.
These verses parallel the “childlike” theme in a different way:
The Synoptic Gospels emphasize childlike humility and trust.
John emphasizes new birth, becoming spiritually like a newborn.
So while John doesn’t use the phrase “as a child,” he does use the image of spiritual rebirth, which carries a similar idea: entering God’s kingdom requires becoming new, dependent, receptive, and transformed.
Key qualities of being “like a child” spiritually include:
Total Dependence: Like infants who rely completely on a caregiver, we must rely entirely on God’s grace.
Childlike Trust: A confident, unself-conscious reliance on God’s promises.
Humility: Setting aside pride and self-sufficiency, as children had no status in Jesus’ day.
Teachability: Remaining open, curious, and willing to be led and corrected by God.
Innocence and Sincerity: Coming to God with honesty and purity of heart.
Quickness to Forgive: Children often resolve conflicts quickly — a picture of kingdom forgiveness.
Why This Becomes Harder as We Grow Older
The older we get, the harder it becomes to “become like a child.” We become set in our ways and beliefs. It’s not impossible — but it isn’t as easy as it is when we’re young.
A Parallel in the Wilderness Story
This reminds me of the Israelites wandering in the desert for 40 years. If you’ve been in church, you’re probably familiar with the Exodus story.
Exodus 1–15 describes Moses at the burning bush, his confrontation with Pharaoh, the ten plagues, the Passover, the departure from Egypt, the crossing of the Red Sea, and the song of Moses after their deliverance.
God was leading them to the promised land — the land flowing with milk and honey (Exodus 15–40). When they reached the border, spies went in to explore it. They found the land just as God promised, but they also saw giants. All but two believed it would be too difficult to enter.
Because of their unbelief, God led them through the desert for 40 years, caring for them the entire time. Even though they witnessed miracle after miracle, the older generation longed for Egypt. They remembered what they thought were the “better things” they had there and forgot how hard their slavery truly was. Many complained to Moses, asking why he brought them into the desert at all.
I bring this up because it mirrors the challenge of entering the kingdom of God. The older generation was conditioned by a certain way of life. They couldn’t see the blessings God was giving them. It took 40 years for that generation to pass away. The younger generation, who grew up seeing God’s provision, was ready. It was finally time to enter the land.
I won’t go into the “promised land” right now — that’s a very contentious subject — but the parallel stands.